So i finally got hold of the banned book. yes,it is lady Chatterley's lover . After planning to order it online and looking at the ridiculous price tag that came with it , i may have decided that i might as well wait for it ,until i was casually browsing playstore and voila! free pdf version !! so i installed it that moment. Since, i'm not a very big fan of the pdf movement but still i try to suffice with it every now and then specially in instances like these. Well, the book that happened to create an uproar with its supposedly explicit content is my hands finally and i may have succumbed to the the age old tradition of the forbidden fruit appearing more juicier while still hoping that the fruit is worth the try.
Anyhow, coming back to the book , i might have still in the beginning chapters of it but i have to spit out something that really caught my attention and i possibly cannot wait for a better occasion to put if off my head while the feeling still reverberates within me .
So, the question that is knocking me about is that could we possibly keep love and sex as two separate entities? by saying this i am not implying to the new traditions of the
'casual sex' phenomenon or the more refined version of the same thing which is colorfully put it as 'friends with benefits' kinda thing. what i particularly mean is what if the age old tradition of equating sex after marriage and kissing the bride after your vows are delivered never existed at all and again let me clarify by saying that my motto is not to talk about casual or premarital sex in any form of matter because the wise ones probably know how much a thing like that is overrated, it just goes about unnoticed now.
coming back to the point, you meet this someone who is great to be with and it could be anyone who you might have known for a long time or just in the initial stage of getting to know the person and then you go to bed with him/her and irrespective of the great sex that you have or not, this whole process called sex is known to create a certain kind of trigger that may leave you with a benign longing for that person eventually. that was the very reason why the two liberal sisters connie and hilda almost succumbed to the strange male power but chose not to. they were rational enough to realize the fact that sex was just a thrill that runs through your body and set themselves free from the baggage that could have emerged from it.
we humans have been brought upon by the belief that love and sex are two surfaces of the same coin and sex is possibly the seed from which the flower of love blooms but is it just to say so? which makes me question the mila kunis and justin timerlake starrer 'friend with benefits' which has two gorgeous, strong willed characters probably falling in love and living happily ever after by the end of the movie , starting from their casual consensual sex to falling in love with each other . okay....what if they hadn't had sex in the first place? would they have not fallen in love? what if they had just had sex and refrained from the strange power that lingers in the aftermath of it, and if that had happened would they end up meeting the soulmate or perhaps met someone somebody who provided them with a bigger sexual thrill and bigger sentiments emerging out of it making them a potentially better lover.
the whole theory behind me talking about this matter is such that with our society already constructing rules for the way life is suppose to be lived , we also have our glands or organs dictating us in some of the most crucial decisions that we end up making in our lives. if you come to think of it, it is after all an organ or a gland . isnt it? flaccid, clumsy , erogenous and a very potential sentiment propagator.
My point being, what if we keep love and sex as an altogether separate entities? probably sex wouldn't have been such a big deal and while sex was not a great deal, true love in its own time could flourish and bloom about making humans aware of the greater and better things in their life that existed within their own self.
on a sad note, history has given us enough evidence on how society has been molding human behavior making the necessary alterations as per the suitability and the whole notion of the 'ideal kind of life' and how it should be and we have all been blindly carrying the wagon and marching ahead in order to fit in.
we don't have much of a choice. do we?
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